So I’ve never exactly had the cleanest or tidiest home on the block. But now that we have two children under the age of 5, I can tell you that I probably win the title of
house in the neighbourhood. I have many mommy friends who have immaculate houses, and others who like me, have ‘well lived in’ homes. I often feel that we as mother’s, grade each other on the way our homes look. Almost to say that if our homes are well kept, than
we must have it all figured out.
I’ll never forget the time that I found out my friend was secretly hiring a maid to come in once a week and clean up her messy home (and not just from me…I was the first one she had told). For months I couldn’t figure out how this mother of two toddlers, would work crazy hours at work and have just as busy of a schedule as I did, yet her house was immaculate. At the time I was working only a few days a week and barely managing to balance that. I felt like I could never keep up with the laundry, our countertops were always sticky and our floors were… well, our floors looked like there had just been some sort of cafeteria food fight going on.
One day she finally spilled the beans and told me that she had someone come in once a week to do all the cleaning that she just couldn’t get to. The crazy thing about it was that she was obviously embarrassed to say ‘
I can’t do it all
’. Seriously? Is that what society has come to, where we can’t ask for help without feeling bad about it?
I would love to have someone come in and clean my house once a week. It would mean that I would have more time to spend with my kids. Any mom who has someone clean her house so she can have more time with her family, is doing a great job. For me, the house cleaner doesn’t fit into our budget, so I simply don’t make it a priority. Sure I keep things as tidy as possible, but I can honestly say that there are days that look like a tornado has torn through my living room. Oh, and our partially finished family room, has been unwittingly transformed into one giant playroom. I do laundry as we run out of underwear and socks. I clean countertops when things begin to stick them. I clean closets when they no longer close. I am not perfect but I do what I can to balance home, work and family.
And don’t worry, I haven’t forgotten those of you who do have an immaculate home. If you can accomplish a clean home while managing a family, I raise my glass to you. To find balance in your life where you can spend time with your family, manage all the mommy responsibilities and get your house spotless… you are an amazing woman!
So the moral of the story is that we all have different lifestyles and responsibilities as mothers, and we need to respect that. The fact that anyone feels bad about asking for help, showcases the disheartening reality that we don’t always embrace our differences. To all the moms with clean and dirty houses alike, keep up the great work… this mommy thing isn’t easy!