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Think This, Not That #5: In Action

Sometimes, we all have rough days. Sometimes, unnecessarily rough… There are situations in which one can handle things better. But I’m a slow learner… And apparently I like to make things more difficult than they need to be. You know the saying about taking lemons and turning them into lemonade? Well, occasionally I will just stand there staring at the lemons in horror, shouting, “WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?!” I overanalyze. Instead of saying, “Oh. Whoops! Looks like I might have made a little error there. Better do my best to fix it.”, I will just agonize over how it happened in the first place, and what this must indicate about my value as a person.

The other day, I lost my wallet. Yes. My wallet. As in, the thing that holds my money, identification, and life.

My bad.

Typically, when I do something foolish (i.e. when I’m negligent) like that, I overreact…

Some of the thoughts that run through my head (and mouth):

–> “You are a moron! Seriously, when are you going to grow up and be a real adult?!” (Never. Never is the answer… I hope.)

–> “This is so like you — ruining anything good. You had a great day and then you ended it by losing the most important thing you carry? Of course you did! Just like all the other good things you ruined in the past. [Insert stream of past failures.]”

–> “Wow. You have more zits than a teenager!” (Unrelated, my brain just likes to take advantage of any opportunity to take a jab at me.)

–> “Yes, that does make your butt look fat. And everything else, too.”

–> “You really can’t do anything right. Like — anything.”

Etc.
Etc.
Etc.

I hardly need to go into more detail, because it’s all depressing, and ridiculous, and untrue, regardless. The main thing I want to highlight is how I (eventually) responded to these junky thoughts. I was so glad that in her guest post, Erin stated that it can be really helpful to personify your Crazies in some manner (her method is awesome). It made me feel a little less weird for doing this on a regular basis. However, instead of naming mine, I just talk to my Crazy like it’s a cheating scrub (whoa — flashback — TLC!) I’m breaking up with. I think it has something to do with listening to fem-power rock as a preteen… (’90s Alanis Morissette, anyone?)

I’ve been known to even sing at my Crazy when it gets all up in my grill with negativity. Yep. Does anyone else feel empowered by this? I like to employ songs like the one below, which I otherwise wouldn’t really listen to/acknowledge. It makes me laugh at myself, and then my thoughts start heading down a different stream. You know, the one with rationality. I’m able to step back, see the ludicrousness, and tell the thought to pack up and get gone…

And demand some (self-)Respect.

And let both my Crazy and my (logical) self know that life will go on despite my mistakes.

Here’s how I replied to The Crazy’s criticisms:

You are a moron! Seriously, when are you going to grow up and be a real adult?!–> No, I was just rushing, and need to be more careful next time. I know ancient Greek, yo. Pretty sure you can’t be a moron and learn another language. Chew on that, Crazy.

This is so like you — ruining anything good. You had a great day and then you ended it by losing the most important thing you carry? Of course you did! Just like all the other good things you ruined in the past. [Insert stream of past failures.]–> Um, all I did was lose a few things that are totally replaceable. Not the end of the world. Just the end of my bad driver’s license picture.

Wow. You have more zits than a teenager!–> I’ve been eating a lot of avocados lately. Worth it.

Yes, that does make your butt look fat. And everything else, too.–> I’m not fat. I work hard to be very healthy. And my butt doesn’t look bad — it looks big. Because it is. And I like it that way. Sucka.

You really can’t do anything right. Like — anything.–> I can’t believe I’m dignifying this with a response, Crazy. Look at my life! Awesome marriage = doing it right. Healthy = doing it right. Achieving challenging goals = doing it right. Wonderful friends = doing it right. Need I go on?

And if I’m still having trouble getting myself back in a realistic mindset, I’ll just listen to a song that I associate with success. Here is mine. I think you’ll understand why when you watch:


(Notice 1:15, 1:50, 2:00 for highlights — Thanks Caitlin for sharing on Twitter!)

Just wanted to give an example of what Think This, Not That can look like in action! : )

What about you? Have you had to put The Crazies in their place recently?

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