I have always had the impression that modern society can be an emotionally and mentally draining place. The way we react to life and the way we are shown events, people in great heights or in the vast abyss of a bass, is so saturated with emotion: anger, rage, sadness, love. See it as good or bad, but the effect it has is profound. We cling to an idea, we see someone we love, we imagine the success of a dream, or we are “that person” we hope to one day become and live for that ideal.
It’s as if we spend so much time these days lost in imagination, thinking about what’s wrong with our world right now and dealing with this disappointment by thinking more and more about what’s at the top of the mountain, what we think is supposed to be. our destiny.” This is something found in a lot of motivational and inspirational literature, as well as in the hundreds of videos scattered on YouTube these days. Get to the top and don’t worry about anything else.
We are goal-orientated beings
This, I believe, is not based on society, but on the fact that we are goal-oriented beings. We need a reason to get up in the morning, to accomplish something, get somewhere and reach that goal. In this way, the day seems to have been worthwhile, as we take another small step toward that overall goal at the top of the mountain.
Are we ignoring what is supposed to be “the real world” by doing this? Living for the future will always be a questionable habit at best, for the fact that you run the risk of missing the absolute brilliance of what is happening in the present. However, this “big goal” is something that many of us work towards. As comforting as this can be, it is limited by a major problem: what happens next?
You’ve spent so much time working. You’ve clawed, climbed and jumped every time you could get to the top of the mountain and achieve your destination. You’ve gotten up early and gone to sleep later and later working on your dreams, take the next step closer to the top of the mountain. Yet you did it, you put everything into it and you made it.
Just look at that view. Stand there and accept it and don’t forget to have a partner down to see how far you’ve come. Unfortunately, even after all that hard work, the novelty of what you are witnessing wears off relatively quickly, causing us to sit aloof, having accomplished what we set out to do and not really thinking about what to do next.
Have we lost our emotions?
Through this ultimate goal, to get to the top of the mountain and achieve your “destiny” we seem to become blind to everything else. We end up so oblivious to so much of the world, to the people in our lives, to the emotions that might stir your mind to a place of unique feeling brilliance, to the experiences that make us who we are and, perhaps most importantly, who we want to be.
Why is this lost? Because in our blindness, the journey up this “mountain” seems insignificant, especially considering what we expect to feel when we reach the top. The events and experiences that happen as we make choices in life, as we take paths and do what we can along the journey to feel good, are lost because we consider them unnecessary.
Also, this whole premise of living in the present moment as we climb the mountain, drive through the curves and climb to the top of the mountain to get to our “destination” in this fiercely complex and crazy fast world seems like it may not be as simple as we think.
Destination is not defined by single goal
Destination, to me, is a lot like love in that it should not be defined by a single goal or idea. We are fed this idea that we are “destined” to be somewhere, to achieve something or to be with someone, regardless of what may be going on around us and, more importantly, that it may be amazing. We get to the top of the mountain, it’s amazing to be there, but you can’t help but wonder what will happen next. What if there was no single goal, no single “destination”? Forget about the top of the mountain as if it were a “utopia”. Without being too cliché, surely the journey, enjoying what happens and where you are going should be the “utopia”.
What if there was not just a mountain, but mountains? A range of peaks rising high in the crisp white clouds towards the sights and achievements we dream of, all of which we are willing and ready to climb higher. We work hard to get to the top, we are happy just to be on the mountain, we enjoy the increments and the steps we are taking to get to the top. We get there. We reach that goal and it feels amazing.
Then, we go back down again, back to the bottom, with a camera, a journal, an idea and a mind full of memories and experiences that no idea of “destination” could ever replace. We arrive at the foot of that mountain, happy to have been there, only to wander in search of a new mountain, a new goal to have new experiences, find new love and create new memories.
Destiny is a continuous process
Destiny is not one thing, it is a continuous process. We are not destined to be in one place and either be or have this particular thing. So I say go on, why hold on to one thing when the whole world is there, waiting for you to make your mark in whatever way you see fit? Life is not simply working to reach a destination, it is the adventure that allows us to see what living really is.
We are meant to live for life, love and everything else. We must live for this adventure, no matter how big or small, because these are the moments in life that allow us to learn about ourselves and the world. Then, through this experience, we understand that we can choose to think better by feeling thoughts, because we have experienced this and it feels good.
In this way, for me, we can all be part of a Thinking Evolution.