Aren’t you sick of the pity party? Aren’t you tired of the frustration? The feeling of being let down once again? I know that I am! What about you?
Those Pesky Negative Thoughts
Over the course of our lifetime, we’ve adopted negative self talk. It’s a habit that starts pretty early in life. Some have a better handle on it than others, but we’ve all had to deal with it on some level. There have been times that took a swim in a pool full of negative thoughts. I am such a fat loser. I am never going to lose this weight. I will never amount to anything. I’m not special. No one will ever love me. My life will suck forever. Those thoughts produced a feeling of suckiness, but somehow we managed to cope and move on. We didn’t know how much damage those thoughts actually caused.
Thoughts become a part of your unconscious beliefs, which are those underlying beliefs that shape the course of your life. The unconscious mind is very powerful. It’s the auto pilot or the default. It’s the part of you that really runs the show. That is why those negative thoughts, those affirmations from the past have enough power to affect us in the present day and have the potential to do so in the future.
Does this scenario sound familiar to you?
You set a goal to lose 25 pounds. You’re successful at first, but somehow you lose steam. You work hard to keep going, but it’s like swimming upstream against a strong current. The next thing you know, you’re right back to square negative ten. Not only did you gain back the weight that you lost, but some additional pounds decided to join the party. Basically, your unconscious mind shifted gears and took you back to your default.
Information is power. Now you know what you’re dealing with and knowing is half the battle. You also know that all of your unsuccessful attempts at long term change couldn’t be avoided, so stop beating yourself up! It only makes things worse! Lastly, even though you can’t escape your unconscious mind, you CAN change it. There are tons of techniques and methods that have changed the lives of tens to hundreds of thousands of people.
I’m going to try out a few of methods and review them here. We can even do it together! Why not?? We’re fighting for the same things! I want to live out my fantasies of being happy, healthy, and wealthy AND I want to eat my cake with real freakin’ frosting! Ok, ok… I digress, but I know you want cake too. Hell, everybody wants cake.
So be my partners in crime! Ok, maybe not crime. Be my partners in science… the science of the mind. *insert dramatic pause here and cue creepy music* I like it! lol
Let’s Get Started With EFT… even though I already did.
What is EFT?
EFT is the acronym for Emotional Freedom Technique. It was founded by Gary Craig in 1995 during his quest for personal well being. It involves tapping on acupressure points or “energy meridians” in order to remove blockages. Fifteen years later, it is still being credited for changing the lives of so many people.
The fundamental EFT technique needs you to concentrate on a current negative feeling. It could be a fear, a worry, an unpleasant memory, or any other unsolved issue. You accomplish this while maintaining mental focus on the problem. Then you tap 5-7 times on 9 different meridian spots on your body with your fingertips.
The great thing about EFT is that it can be used to change ANY behavior or fix any problematic emotion or behavior: fear, sadness, unworthiness, phobias, pain, anger, addictions, and so on.
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What is EFT used on?
It is used by thousands of therapists and self help enthusiasts worldwide to work on a vast array of problems. These include:
- Panic Attacks
- Weight issues
- Compulsive eating issues
- Binge eating
- Addictions including alcohol and drugs
- Pain management
- Cancer support
- Confidence issues
How to Perform EFT
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a basic technique that involves listening into a problem and then tapping on a series of acupoints on the face with mild percussion. Points near the collarbone and under the arm are also commonly employed. Words are spoken while tapping on the acupoints to help the user tune into their situation. The words are frequently said loudly by the person.
This is done to keep the attention from wandering away from the problem. Thirteen of the body’s fourteen primary meridians were tapped on in the original, classic form of EFT. The liver meridian was frequently overlooked, owing to its position, which was regarded to be a particularly sensitive place for women.
EFT focuses on highly particular acupressure sites, so you can’t just touch any part of your body and expect benefits. The outside edge of the hand, top of the head, forehead, between the eyebrows, temples, under the nose, chin, collarbones, and under the arm are examples of these places.
If you or someone you care about is suffering deep despair, hopelessness, suicide thoughts, or an inability to function at work or school, seek treatment right away. While using EFT tapping points during stressful periods can be beneficial for young adults, it is insufficient support for those suffering from anxiety, despair, or trauma.
EFT by Registered Practitioner
EFT can be self-administered or led by a practitioner who has been trained in Emotional Freedom Technique. A practitioner might either perform the tapping or verbally assist the client through the process. A qualified EFT practitioner may assist a client in identifying the underlying issue that is bothering them and formulating the most effective phrase to address it.
EFT practitioners, also known as tapping practitioners, are usually psychologists, therapists, or counselors who employ tapping points as part of their therapeutic arsenal for anxiety, trauma, or depression. EFT can also be used by professional coaches to help clients overcome self-limiting beliefs or problems that are preventing them from achieving their goals.