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How to Keep Your Cool When Potty Training Your Toddler

The moment you realize that your kid is fully potty trained is when you can officially share it with social media! When it comes to buying diapers, parents of toddlers know how satisfying it is to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve been asking my daughter since she was 15 months if each trip would be the last time I had to buy diapers. She’d give me a friendly smile and a nod.

I knew she was lying didn’t know what I was talking about, but it was funny nonetheless. Fast forward 10 months (2 weeks ago to be exact), she was showing promising signs that she was ready for potty training. It has been an oddly great experience thus far. And I feel that more mothers should feel this way. Today I want to show you how NOT to agonize over potty training your toddler!

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I am pretty inconsistent. I get lazy after giving a go at something I don’t excel in after a few days. Since we’re talking about my Poots and having the change to evict diapers out of our lives, I seemed to have gotten it together.

With a huge gallon of patience, I can say that Poots is about 70% potty trained. I say 70% because she does have accidents, but I don’t let her feel bad about them.

I don’t believe in reprimanding and disciplining your toddler for having bathroom-related accidents. I just talk to my daughter about letting me know when she has to use the bathroom.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, you know. When you empathize with your toddler, you remember that you weren’t judged by when you were successfully potty trained. Employers didn’t ask you when you were potty trained at job interviews, right?

You shouldn’t have to agonize over potty training your toddler

Know when is the right time to potty train your toddler

During our daughter’s first birthday, she received her first potty. It was cute, battery operated, and contained most of the Disney Princesses. You can find it here. We didn’t open it immediately, of course because she was far from ready.

At around fifteen months we finally opened it, sat her on it, and yearned for her excitement. I even pressed the button on the potty that made an enchanting noise for extra support. Her excitement never came. She didn’t think it was so fun to do what her parents were doing every day.

Whenever I’d use the bathroom; I would let her sit on it and see if she’d enjoy sitting there. She would sit down and smile at the attention that she would get and in 1.5 seconds after that would hurry up and race to whatever she had to finish doing on her agenda.

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Potty train during summer

It is advisable to start during a quiet time at home. Summer may appear to be a favorable time to start for some because clothes may be simply removed when the child indicates the desire to go to the bathroom. Despite this benefit, the appropriate moment is when the youngster shows symptoms of preparedness, as he should not be forced to use the restroom.

Above all, you should not begin potty training at a stressful period for your child, such as during a move or the arrival of a younger brother or sister. Also, make sure to enlist the help of other caregivers. If your child attends daycare, it is critical that the caretakers respect his or her routine.

You know toddlers have a lot going on!

When Poots turned 18 months, her grandmother got her another potty. To me, this was great. One potty upstairs and another downstairs instead of trying to remember to take it with us everywhere. You can find this potty here. Every morning we would sit on the potty. She would get cranky, but I would just be like pretty please.

I finally realized that she was simply not ready after witnessing her drop a load on the guest bedroom floor twice. Yes, she would run out of her room to poop in another room. On the floor.

When her second birthday rolled around, I still didn’t put much emphasis on potty training but knew I may have to get the ball rolling since she was moving up to the two-year old’s class in daycare. She’s always happy to sit down, but never wants to sit there for a while.

It wasn’t until my aunt told me that she was using a toilet seat cover for her grandchild. I gave it a whirl. The night I came home with the toilet seat cover, opened it, and sat my daughter on the toilet, she smiled. I knew it was close to that time.

The night I came home with the toilet seat cover, opened it, and sat my daughter on the toilet, she smiled. It was a different smile than when she sat on the other potties. She was ready. She would sit on the potty for more than a few seconds even though she wouldn’t use it. She felt like a big girl. Boosted confidence was one of the things that she needed the most.

Even when she started going back to daycare with her two-year-old peers, the teachers told me she never did anything on the potty to this day. She enjoyed sitting on the potty though!

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Be Consistent With Potty Training Your Toddler, But Also Flexible

travel potty chair

Consistency and flexibility are all we have as parents (besides love)! It took a while to lock down on a steady morning and night routine. My personality type likes to fight against the grain of a regimen. But I have grown to enjoy potty training!

The most pivotal part of potty training for us was these three steps!

1. Limit the use of diapers and try not to use pull-ups unless required by dayca

I was adamant that once I officially started potty training, I would not have Poots in pull ups… Then I was told it was mandatory for the two-year-olds at the daycare. I was fine with that. Daycare along with car rides would be some of the only times she’d use her pull ups. In the house, she would wear her panties. Underwear got her excited because she felt like a big girl.

I bought a step stair made for toddlers that will allow her to reach the sink whenever she was done using the bathroom. What made me excited about the step was the fact that it had storage. Inside housed all of her necessary items for potty training. It is equipped with diapers for overnight use, pull-ups for traveling, underwear, and wipes (you can opt for flushable as well).

 

2.Don’t be afraid (or feel guilty) to use distractions

One day when Poots was sitting on the toilet, I pulled out my phone to make a quick text. She immediately reached out and said, “Pone” (which meant phone). Being the expert that she was, she promptly went to her designated folder on the phone with her games. She stayed on the toilet without being bored each time.

I would continue to ask her if she had to tinkle about every 10 to 15 minutes. Every time we’d go to the bathroom, she’d yell, “Pone”!

3. Celebrate your child

When she made her first tinkle, I celebrated! She was pleasantly surprised that she had a special song that included her name just because she used the potty. The song was her ultimate incentive!

When your child reaches that milestone the 1st and the 35th time, celebrate it. Nothing boosts a toddler’s confidence more than me celebrating her using the bathroom on the potty.

Before I got serious about potty training, I watched a video on how a mother got her toddler to be potty trained at around 20 months! She did the potty dance!

When it was time for Poots to be potty trained, I’d go to the bathroom and do the dance. When she finally sat on the potty for more than a few seconds and did her first wiz, I had a song!

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It went a little something like this: “Go Lili! You pee peed. In the pot-pot. Like a big girl!” x2 and, of course, a toddler song wouldn’t be a toddler song without a yaaaay at the end! We’ve done it consistently, so she shows her appreciation of the song by mouthing the words and saying, “Thank you, Mommy”! How cute is that?!

We’ve done it consistently, so she shows her appreciation of the song by mouthing the words, singing along, and saying, “Thank you, Mommy”! How cute is that?! She’s thanking me for celebrating her milestone! Your child’s smile from your singing to her is where all agony should stop when potty training your toddler!

To push a step further with the incentives and be able to keep track of your potty endeavor, I made you all a FREE printable! We’ve been using it, and she loves that she’s earning stickers each time she successfully uses the bathroom on the potty.

Fun bathroom games she won’t stop playing

If there’s a play element to boys’ potty training, don’t forget to make it enjoyable for girls as well. Allow your daughter to decorate the potty with stickers and make sure she has her favorite picture books with her while she sits on it. If she, like many girls, like princesses, you could even turn the potty into a throne and allow her sit on it wearing a crown. Use your imagination! You may also amuse her with toilet paper crafts, which we’ve put together for you.

Here is the first week into the potty chart. I marked all of the times she went to the bathroom successfully. As you see, she has a problem with using the potty first thing in the morning!

This printable will boost your child’s confidence go through the roof once they see how many stickers they received for the week! The printable is a beginner’s chart that marks how many times your toddler successfully uses the potty during those first few weeks. I will do a follow-up chart that will show how many times your child will go days without any accidents.

I would consider this printable a beginner’s chart. It shows how many times your toddler successfully uses the potty during those first few weeks, separated by morning, afternoon, and evening.

I will do a follow-up chart that will show how many times your child will go days without any accidents.

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What if potty training doesn’t work?

Your toddler may not be ready if her first effort at potty training fails. Don’t be dissatisfied or enraged. Potty training cannot be rushed. Stop trying for 1 to 3 months if your youngster refuses to use the potty. If your toddler doesn’t have foot support, he or she may refuse to use the potty or toilet. Allow your youngster to poop in a diaper in this scenario to avoid constipation.

Bowel movements might be painful if you have constipation. It will take longer for your youngster to get clean if he or she is in discomfort. Consult your doctor if you’re concerned that your child is constipated. When your child’s constipation is cured, he or she will have a lot more success with potty training.

BUT REMEMBER…

Remember, your child is still, in the beginning, phases of their journey of potty traindom! Don’t feel bad when your child is playing with her cousins or friends her age and feel like she’s too busy to use the potty. Don’t feel discouraged when you have a bad day, and there are more accidents than successful potty times. Throughout this journey, there are days when she doesn’t want to be bothered with the potty and times when she forgot to tell me she had to use it but just wanted to wash her hands.

Don’t feel bad when your child is too busy watching cartoons before dinner, and he forgets to tell you that he has to poop.

My daughter has done all of these examples. Every time I remind her to let someone know when she needs to drop her deuce.

Ever since us being consistent with potty training, I have been receiving stellar reports from her teachers at her daycare. They even say that she remains dry when she naps for 2 hours! She also stays dry when we are on short car rides. I couldn’t be any happier!

I would also suggest buying an additional toilet seat cover with disinfecting wipes for the car. This way when you and your toddler are out, he will be able to use the bathroom out and about and decrease the chance of relying on a pull-up.

I hope this was helpful to you all, lovelies! I have weirdly enjoyed potty training simply because I enjoyed celebrating my daughter and her growth with this milestone. If this is not your cup of tea and you feel that it is time for your child to be potty trained, fake it until you make it! But please, don’t agonize over potty training your toddler!

Any mommies out there with any other advice that I missed?! Also, for those with sons, your help is needed! I know that boys tend to be much harder to potty train than girls. 

AboutKara

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