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Be More Visible – Stop Being a Best Kept Secret

Have you ever had the thrill of discovering a ‘little” restaurant, or tea-room? Have you ever discovered a ‘little’ service like a dress-maker, or alteration hand, or even – in my case – the wonderful computer repair guy who’s kept me sane…ish for the past 5 years.

It’s funny how often we used the word ‘little” in connection with these little-known treasures.

The question is: do you want to be one of them?

Do you want to be one of the best kept secrets in your field?

I don’t know if you know this, but I trained as an Alexander Technique (AT) teacher, back in the last millennium. Now, the Alexander Technique is pretty amazing. It changes lives. Massively.  Clients of mine who’d been crippled by chronic back pain, for years and years, became pain-free, and could get back to living a normal, active life.

The Alexander Technique is now regarded as a mental discipline that teaches people how to let go of physical tension and allow their bodies to move with ease and without effort. AT is used to treat a wide range of ailments, including musculoskeletal discomfort and repetitive strain injuries, as well as breathing issues, voice loss, and sleep disturbances.

Some of my clients were able to say “No” to invasive back surgery, because they stopped needing it.  They were able to give up their pain-killers, and still look and feel way better than they had in years.

But here’s the thing:

I wasn’t anything special.

Most Alexander teachers have extraordinary stories to tell.

That’s why there are a lot of people who are devoted to their ‘little’ Alexander teacher.

With so many successes, does it strike you as strange that the Alexander Technique – which has been around for 120 years, or so – is still a Best Kept Secret?

It shouldn’t.

The problem is that most AT teachers have a real problem: they’re brilliant at what they do…


They’re Too Modest to Market.

They think that Word of Mouth will work, for them, like a forest fire. They imagine that the AT is so great that people will just flock to them.

It doesn’t work like that.

It’s one of those things that drive me mad. In the course of a year, I meet so many outstanding Best Kept Secrets, who are Too Modest to Market themselves. They have issues around their worth: do they really deserve the success their gifts can bring?    They have issues around money, and beliefs that they don’t really deserve to make money. Least of all for sharing their gifts!!!

What happens to these Best Kept Secrets?

The short answer is that they carry on being Best Kept Secrets.

And they keep on playing small. Seriously small. You see, there’s a problem that a lot of lovely people are too modest to recognize: a gift is not truly a gift until you get it out there. ‘Out There’ is the fertile soil in which gifts grow, and blossom.  ‘Out there’ is the only place where your gifts can truly come to fruition.

Being a Best Kept Secret leads to going round in circles, struggling for clients, struggling for income, and struggling for self-belief.  It reinforces self-doubt. Self-doubt leads to procrastination leads to stagnation, and withering on the bud.  One of the most significant impediments to enjoying the life you actually deserve is self-doubt.

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This unhealthy soul food suffocates your spirit, crushes your ambitions, and keeps you from achieving your full potential. We all have inner voices that tell us we’re not good enough, powerful enough, or capable of accomplishing the goals we set for ourselves. These sentiments of inadequacy or weakness often originate in infancy and become imprinted in our very being.

Being able to decide whether or not we desire something and then act on that decision is not a skill that all species possess. When self-doubt causes you to seek support or an explanation for why you can’t go forward or why you can’t achieve a goal, it becomes extremely damaging to your self-will.

Have you ever had one of those brilliant ideas that, after 3, maybe 6, months on the back burner, didn’t inspire you nearly as much… And yet, at one time you’d known you could take it somewhere special.

Simple Mind Set Shift

Sometimes the difference between doing something amazing with your gifts and doing nothing isn’t very big, at all. Mostly, all it takes is a mind-set shift, around money beliefs, and marketing.

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But if you can accomplish something as simple as… trust in yourself. You’ll notice that your perspectives and outlooks begin to shift, the “doom and gloom” veil begins to lift from your eyes, and you finally have the 20/20 vision that you require to convert any ending into a new, and even better, beginning. So, consider what this ending could be paving the way for in your life. Allow yourself to think about what new chances could arise as a result of this huge change.

That simple mind-set shift makes all the difference in the world between thriving and just struggling to survive – like my lovely client Leona, who said to me this week: “I’ve made massive headway, and finally shifted something that had been there forever.”

The problem is that people are impatient by nature. We like ongoing advancement in life, therefore once we achieve a goal, we celebrate for around 10 seconds… and then we move on to the next item on our to-do list.

Make a list of what you desire. Set a goal for yourself. Make a strategy for achieving it. It’s critical to know where you’re going and what you’re doing. Then get out there and take the first step. Choose the tiniest action that will bring you closer to your objective and take it. You’ll acquire momentum and find it simpler to take the following step once your mind is in action mode. But the key is to get started.

If you want 2022 to be the year that you make massive headway, too, then this may be just what you are looking for.


Sadie is a freelance writer documenting the adventures of downsizing from the family home in the suburbs to a mountain cottage in the woods. She share the downsizing details, scoutings of the mountain locations, and her never-ending search for the perfect T-shaped clothesline.

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